Comments on: single motherhood http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/ one plus one makes three Mon, 08 Mar 2010 06:06:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Mother of 2 » The allure of a single mom http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-637 Mother of 2 » The allure of a single mom Sat, 28 Jul 2007 11:03:55 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-637 [...] wrote a very nice post about single motherhood depicting the realities that single mother’s face in the workplace. Despite the many [...] [...] wrote a very nice post about single motherhood depicting the realities that single mother’s face in the workplace. Despite the many [...]

]]> By: andrea http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-636 andrea Tue, 17 Jul 2007 09:15:42 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-636 @atleastimgorgeous - I've always admired women who are strong enough to end a relationship when they realize that it's not doing anybody any good anymore. It's funny that they assume that it's always about the separation, haha! Don't they realize that some women DO get over break-ups and DO get on with their lives happy even without men :) @atleastimgorgeous – I’ve always admired women who are strong enough to end a relationship when they realize that it’s not doing anybody any good anymore. It’s funny that they assume that it’s always about the separation, haha! Don’t they realize that some women DO get over break-ups and DO get on with their lives happy even without men :)

]]> By: atleastimgorgeous http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-635 atleastimgorgeous Sun, 15 Jul 2007 16:12:51 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-635 Hi. Just happened to stumble on this blog and thought of dropping my two cents. I'm now a single mom (once married, now separated) and I guess there is some stigma too. Separated moms get to be accused of being selfish because we did not sacrifice and stay together for the kids. I usually say I'd rather be separated than have my daughter hear fights every single day. And though the people I work with seem understanding, they sometimes think every single issue is rooted on my separation (if I were late or grumpy, they'd think its because of my being separated.) Malay ba nilang mainit lang ang ulo ko dahil ma-traffic? haha... Cheers. Hi. Just happened to stumble on this blog and thought of dropping my two cents. I’m now a single mom (once married, now separated) and I guess there is some stigma too. Separated moms get to be accused of being selfish because we did not sacrifice and stay together for the kids. I usually say I’d rather be separated than have my daughter hear fights every single day. And though the people I work with seem understanding, they sometimes think every single issue is rooted on my separation (if I were late or grumpy, they’d think its because of my being separated.) Malay ba nilang mainit lang ang ulo ko dahil ma-traffic? haha… Cheers.

]]> By: andrea http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-634 andrea Thu, 12 Jul 2007 20:55:41 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-634 @joy - thanks! :) @lisaflor - So true about not having a "headache" husband. If the choice were a lousy one and not having one, I'd prefer not having one anytime! :) Better to be happy alone than stuck with someone if he'll just make you miserable. @raqgold - Ditto! :) @mirandah - I admit that it's only now that I get to fully comprehend how strong and admirable these single moms are, that's why I also feel more strongly whenever someone passes judgment on one :) @Chi - I think that being a mom, whatever kind it may be, be it single, adoptive, foster, or the regular kind :) makes one a better person. And yeah, practice makes perfect so the next baby after Gavin will have an even better Mommy Chi ;) @Connie - Hay, talaga! Yung sister ko nga minsan nagdadrama na baka tumandang dalaga sya sabi ko e ano naman? Gusto daw nya syempre magkaanak sabi ko pa ulit magpabuntis na lang sya... WAHAHA! Ooops, don't worry matanda na sya and I don't give advices like that to HS girls! HAHAHA! :) @ApplesH - That's another angle there alright! How can we expect other people to change their views on single moms when the law itself cannot protect them and their children? Nagkaroon na ba ng senator na single woman? Lalong nakakagalit kapag the stigma is passed on to the kids. @GreyMom - :) @joy – thanks! :)

@lisaflor – So true about not having a “headache” husband. If the choice were a lousy one and not having one, I’d prefer not having one anytime! :) Better to be happy alone than stuck with someone if he’ll just make you miserable.

@raqgold – Ditto! :)

@mirandah – I admit that it’s only now that I get to fully comprehend how strong and admirable these single moms are, that’s why I also feel more strongly whenever someone passes judgment on one :)

@Chi – I think that being a mom, whatever kind it may be, be it single, adoptive, foster, or the regular kind :) makes one a better person. And yeah, practice makes perfect so the next baby after Gavin will have an even better Mommy Chi ;)

@Connie – Hay, talaga! Yung sister ko nga minsan nagdadrama na baka tumandang dalaga sya sabi ko e ano naman? Gusto daw nya syempre magkaanak sabi ko pa ulit magpabuntis na lang sya… WAHAHA! Ooops, don’t worry matanda na sya and I don’t give advices like that to HS girls! HAHAHA! :)

@ApplesH – That’s another angle there alright! How can we expect other people to change their views on single moms when the law itself cannot protect them and their children? Nagkaroon na ba ng senator na single woman? Lalong nakakagalit kapag the stigma is passed on to the kids.

@GreyMom – :)

]]> By: GreyMom http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-633 GreyMom Thu, 12 Jul 2007 15:28:02 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-633 We shouldn't be judged nor defined by the choices that we make but by how we chose to live after making those choices. Very very true!!! We shouldn’t be judged nor defined by the choices that we make but by how we chose to live after making those choices.

Very very true!!!

]]> By: ApplesH http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-632 ApplesH Thu, 12 Jul 2007 12:37:54 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-632 I was a single mom too before I got married to the love of my life. It was very hard indeed. Although it is not uncommon to see single moms, it is as you say carry a certain stigma with it. As if we (**single moms) were the most pitiful beings in the world. Do you know that our laws are not kind to single moms? Not yet anyway... I learned that the hard way. Talk about how many times your kid will be called "illegitimate" in every form or whatnot. Hayy... I was a single mom too before I got married to the love of my life. It was very hard indeed. Although it is not uncommon to see single moms, it is as you say carry a certain stigma with it. As if we (**single moms) were the most pitiful beings in the world. Do you know that our laws are not kind to single moms? Not yet anyway… I learned that the hard way. Talk about how many times your kid will be called “illegitimate” in every form or whatnot. Hayy…

]]> By: Connie http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-631 Connie Thu, 12 Jul 2007 06:47:13 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-631 Yang ganyang mentality ang nakakinis madalas sa mga Pinoy - kawawa maging single mother, nakakahiya maging matandang dalaga, disaster maging hiwalay sa asawa... as though a woman can't be happy and complete without a man. Yang ganyang mentality ang nakakinis madalas sa mga Pinoy – kawawa maging single mother, nakakahiya maging matandang dalaga, disaster maging hiwalay sa asawa… as though a woman can’t be happy and complete without a man.

]]> By: Chi http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-630 Chi Thu, 12 Jul 2007 02:36:44 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-630 i was a single mom four years before i married my husband. i had my daughter when i was 18 and my ex broke up with me when jenna was just 3 months old. looking back at what my life has been since i had jenna, i can say that having her is the best thing that has ever happened in my life and it made me a better person in the process. i feel that being a single mother for awhile made me a better mother to gavin. i was a single mom four years before i married my husband. i had my daughter when i was 18 and my ex broke up with me when jenna was just 3 months old. looking back at what my life has been since i had jenna, i can say that having her is the best thing that has ever happened in my life and it made me a better person in the process. i feel that being a single mother for awhile made me a better mother to gavin.

]]> By: mirandah http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-629 mirandah Thu, 12 Jul 2007 01:10:04 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-629 I do admire the courage of single mothers out there who have raised their children alone, carrying the responsibilities that should be done by the man who have left them in their most crucial situation. I do admire the courage of single mothers out there who have raised their children alone, carrying the responsibilities that should be done by the man who have left them in their most crucial situation.

]]> By: raqgold http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/single-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-628 raqgold Wed, 11 Jul 2007 11:35:56 +0000 http://www.alaherrera.com/2007/07/08/single-motherhood/#comment-628 single moms are moms, too -- whatever other people say. i admire them for sticking up for their child, no matter what. single moms are moms, too — whatever other people say. i admire them for sticking up for their child, no matter what.

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