the road less taken… for now
Posted on November 8, 2007
It can be kind of eerie when you're in a situation wherein you feel like you're observing your own, previous self. Even before I gave birth to Mateo, I've found it harder to relate to some of my single friends. Ramil and I concerned ourselves with bills to pay and other daily mundane things. We couldn't very well talk to our single friends about which laundry detergent brand is best over coffee, or how to fix the flush of our toilet bowl over a poker game.
When Mateo came along, our concerns, which included the most affordable diapers and different teething remedies, became less similar with theirs. I found myself gravitating towards mommies like me. Ramil and I found ourselves changing. I'd often ask him whether he regrets tying the knot at 24 and starting a family at 25 while most of our batchmates are busy climbing the corporate ladder. He'd always answer me with a resounding no and when we had Mateo, there was no doubt in our minds that we've chosen the kind of life that we want.
Still, whenever we'd have meet-ups with our single friends, I never fail to get that eerie feeling. It felt like looking at my past self when we attended my bestfriend's birthday last Saturday. We brought along Mateo and the yaya and it made the difference all the more glaring. Most of our friends there were talking about settling down two years from now while Ramil and I will be sending Mateo to school by then (and maybe would be having another baby?hehe).
I know this isn't permanent, pretty soon our friends will be joining us with talks of household management and baby duties. The road less taken that we have chosen will inevitably get crowded as the years pass by. For the mean time, we'll continue to be amused at seeing ourselves in our friends. Ramil and I share the same sentiments, our lives are exactly how we want it to be. We know what we were saying goodbye to when we said our I do's but what's more important are the things we knew we're welcoming into our lives.
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hi andrea! i’m sure your single friends will be able to catch up with you soon. iba na lang kasi concerns niyo ni ramil now that you have a family eh.
Hi Ann! Yup, for now we really feel the gap between their lives and ours pero we’re sure pretty soon pareho na ulit kami ng mga concerns. Hehe.
So true. My high school best friend is prepping for her wedding next year and I feel so far from her stories already and I also feel na she can’t understand a single word I tell her when it comes to my husband and my son. I’m just excited to talk to her after she gets married, that way we can be in the same wavelength.
Also the reason why I love this blogging community, I can relate na kasi sa lahat ng wife-mommy stories dito eh.
Oh btw, you’ve been tagged.
Hi Litzie! Oo, pretty soon most of our friends would be going to us to talk about married life and having a baby. Haha!
Thanks for the tag, will visit your blog